Because scrolling past a happy fat woman and her fiancé and leaving a hate comment isn’t edgy — it’s just embarrassing.
The other day, I made the fatal error of simply… existing on the internet in a fat body.
Recently, a photo of me and my fiancé was shared on a wedding page. We’re getting married this September — and the photo? It was just us. Smiling. Together. Being in love. You know, the exact purpose of a wedding page.
But within hours, the comment section was swarming. Not with congratulations. Not with “How lovely!”. Nope. It was full of people absolutely frothing at the mouth over the fact that we had the audacity to be visibly happy.
Some of the comments were cruel. Some were downright laughable. Some were so painfully bitter that I wanted to reply, “Blink twice if your life is okay.”
Because imagine scrolling past two strangers in love and thinking, “This is where I shall unload all of my insecurities today.” Tough life, huh?
Let’s get one thing straight:
If you’re the kind of person who leaves hate comments on someone’s body online, you are not “just being honest.” You are not “sharing your opinion.” You are the worst kind of person… with too much free time on your hands.
Touch grass. Drink water. Journal. Knit. Take a walk. Get therapy. Do literally anything else besides typing out your issues on someone else’s joy.
This isn’t just rude. It’s harmful.
Online body-shaming might feel like a throwaway comment to you. But to the person receiving it? It can land like a punch.
It’s been linked to:
- Disordered eating
- Depression
- Body dysmorphia
- Anxiety
- Self-harm
- Suicidal thoughts
For someone already struggling, one cruel message can be the breaking point.
Your words don’t just sit on a screen. They echo — sometimes long after you’ve forgotten you typed them.
I used to take it personally.
Now I treat it like spam.
Years ago, this kind of comment would’ve seriously harmed my mental health. But not anymore.
Now I’m surrounded by friends and family who love and support me. I’ve got a partner who sees my whole self and calls it beautiful. And trolls? They just bounce off. Like water off a duck’s back.
You can come for my body — but you’ll never touch my self-worth. That’s no longer up for discussion.
If you’ve ever been the target of body-shaming or trolling — here’s what I want you to know:
- You are not the problem.
- You don’t need to change to deserve respect.
- You don’t need to be thinner to be loved.
- You don’t need to shrink to stay safe.
You are allowed to take up space — in love, in joy, in grief, in a wedding dress, on Instagram, in whatever body you exist in today. And if you’re hurting right now? Please don’t suffer alone.
📚 Help and resources
If you’re struggling with body image, mental health, or the impact of online abuse — these organisations can help.
🧠 Mental Health Support:
- Mind (UK) | mind.org.uk | 0300 123 3393
- Samaritans (UK) | samaritans.org | 116123
- CALM | thecalmzone.net | 0800 58 58 58
🥀 Eating Disorders & Body Image:
- Beat Eating Disorders | beateatingdisorders.org.uk | 0808 801 0677
🛑 Cyberbullying & Online Abuse:
- Internet Matters: internetmatters.org
- Report Harmful Content: reportharmfulcontent.com
And to the trolls?
May your favourite mug always leak.
May your autocorrect always betray you.
May your Wi-Fi die during your series finale.
And may your mirror one day show you the real issue.
Because my body? Was never it.
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You are lovable. You are enough. You are not up for debate.
Chloe Peach 